Where is Mr. Right?

This is a question Carly asks herself every day. The 23-year-old sits at her desk browsing the Internet, in the hopes of finding the perfect match.“Am I just a loser?” She asks looking away from the Craigslist website. She has been searching for people, who like her, are looking to find “the one.” “People tell me to leave it up to fate and destiny, but all fate has provided me with has been perverted old men, men with anger problems, ones who rely on me for money, and even questionably gay men.” “I still have hope that one day the Knight on the white horse will show up and rescue me.” Carly’s fairy tales never have happy endings. For some odd reason she always hops on the wrong horse.

First there was Charles. He was a very handsome man with big hair to match his personality, but turned out to be a 40-year-old pervert.

Next there was Derek. At first he was cute, funny and charming, but she later discovered he was slightly psychotic. He left angry messages on her voicemail causing Carly to change her phone number.

Then there was Marcos, who wasn’t physically attractive, but caught Carly’s attention with his intelligence. However, she was quickly disappointed by his arrogance and his “angry black man” conversations. The last straw was when he asked her to western union him $300. They never spoke again.

Finally, there was Ricky. He had caramel eyes, a charming personality, smelled amazing and had a great sense of humor. He was the perfect man, but not for her…for another man. Yes, he was gay.

Why is Carly attracting the wrong men? She holds a degree in Psychology. She is currently studying to get her masters; she’s tall and slim with curves in the right places. She is a sweet sensitive girl with an amazing personality…So now…you may ask yourself what is wrong with her. The answer to that question is absolutely nothing. The only thing I believe she is doing wrong is looking for love.

Like Carly, there are many women eager to find their soul mate. They want to make sure they have that special someone to share a blissful life with.

I say don’t look for love, let love find you. Have you ever lost something and you look and look and never find it? Then once you stop looking it randomly appears. That is the same way cupid will work his magic. He will strike when you least expect it. Try to focus more on yourself. Something I think would work is enrolling in activities you like to do. There, you are likely to meet people with similar interests.

We women have to stop mulling over the flawless man we want to find. It’s not like you can make a list and have God build a person that matches the qualities you put on there.You are likely to find a flaw that is not on your “perfect man” list.

Throw the list away. If not you might be dooming yourself to never finding Mr. Right, and like Carly continue to date Mr. Right Now.

What do you do to find Mr. Right? Discuss...